So… you know this is good for your child… yet… he still says he doesn’t like practicing….

The solution is simple. Ask yourself “who’s in charge?”  This is where parenting comes in. There are many parents who forget, or are too timid, to remember that they are the ones in charge! Your child is not capable of understanding the long term benefits of music education. As such, you should not be asking them if they want to practice or take lessons. Instead, you need to ask yourself: What priority does music lessons have in our lives?

What is my goal for my child?

This is parenting!! It’s not a popularity contest! Believe me, if I had a nickel for every time my own children said “I don’t want to practice, I want to quit”…

Every person I know who has their Grade 8 Piano (or higher) did so because their parents simply told them that was the plan, and it was not optional! It was regarded as part of their academic learning, just like any other class in school. There is a lot of research that supports this – if you tell your child “oh, we’ll give it a try to see if you like it”, that child is not likely to continue in music. But having a defined goal early in the process greatly increases the likelihood of success. Please be mindful of this when you are speaking to your child. Music can be hard. Practicing can be tedious. But it is not impossible. And the rewards are life-long!

I believe there are 3 kinds of adults:

• those who can play an instrument
• those who cannot but wish they did, and
• those who took lessons as a child, quit, and now regret it!

I have never met an adult who said “I’m glad I quit piano”. They all say “I wish my parents had made me practice”!

Tuck that into the back of your mind if the going gets tough! CONTINUED→